LIFE 101: Live and Learn

IT'S NOT FAIR


To say “it’s not fair”
Implies order in chaos

To feel “it's not fair”
Is just comparison

Just wanting it to be fair
Is presumptive and hopeless

If it is fair to me
It is unfair to others


When we were young
they tried to teach us to be fair
to be kind to all
and they would in return care

But behind the rhetoric
Unfairness cuts to the core
And even the world agrees
“All’s fair in love and war”


To say “it's not fair”
Is a form of self-pity

To feel “it’s not fair”
Says “the world owes me something”

Wanting it to be fair
Is idealistic, naïve

For it to be fair
To me is unrealistic


To say “it’s not fair”
Is the role of the victim

To feel “it’s not fair”
Causes anger and ill will

In wanting it to be fair
It’s all disappointment

If it is fair to me
I shouldn't expect more of it


Through life we now
See few things that are fair
Those who would cheat
Are the ones who win First Prize

Cut in line, run the sign
Be first at all cost
Any sense of fairness
Is all but long lost


To say “it's not fair”
Won’t do anything but harm

To feel “it's not fair”
Fosters ugly resentment

In wanting it to be fair
We upset the balance

It only is fair for us
By taking away from them


--© lyrics by VHC